Understanding Sex
& Sexuality
The general prevalent knowledge
related to sex may just be restricted to knowing something about the perceived
sexually sensitive areas of the opposite sex, sex organs, sexual intercourse,
reproduction and to a very great extent the inflated image about the pleasure
of a sexual encounter.
The source of these informations are
usually the informations transferred by tittle-tattle among the peers under the
smoke screen of confidentiality as this is a subject that is restricted from
public discussion by various social norms in the society.
The basic knowledge about sex starts
usually in the preadolescent or early adolescent periods with the “kitty” talk
related to sex among the peers specifically in the context related to the
sexual organs where most of the informations transfers are based on the
exaggerations of the minimal information which each child has accessed to. At
the next stage the knowledge is developed from the informations given by
sophomores who also do not have any real information but exhibit the same just
to demonstrate their knowledge experience and dominance.
In today’s world the prime source of
information is the World Wide Web and internet search engines which also gives
easy access to malicious informations. Porn books and movies have also been
playing a major role in imparting the knowledge about sex.
These unscrupulous knowledge gained by
the young minds is further authenticated by the sensationalist celluloid and
print, media, much maligned so called women’s or men’s magazines that present
user favorite articles, stories and experiences related to sex, which further
inflates the existing ignorance related to sex. All these sources have not only provided incorrect
informations but also prevent people from reaching out to the right source to
gain the appropriate knowledge. This has resulted in lot of misconceptions and
false informations being circulated not openly but as open secrets. These
misconceptions has also been the base for not understanding or accepting the
prevalence of sexual problems, even if such problems are identified; trying to
live with it or take secret unprofessional measures to tackle it resulting in
quacks taking advantage of the ignorance to make fortune for themselves.
One of the reason for the propagation
and maintenance of such misconceptions is almost certainly the awkwardness that
most people feel when discussing anything of a sexual nature. The usual fears
are that discussing sexual matters is giving permission to the other person to
enter into ones extremely personal matters or there is chance that they may be
over treading other person’s personal space. There are also wide fears that
other person may mistake it as sexual intentions, or it might hurt the other
party. This is because and only because most of us have been conditioned not to
speak freely about sex by our parents, our educators, and the social and
cultural conventions.
Sex is not an endeavor in which the
physical arousal and workout alone determines the effectiveness or
satisfaction. Psychological, social and emotional factors play a more or at
least an equally vital role in determining the effectiveness. But the most of
us fail to go beyond the physiological factors associated with sex and
sexuality.
As always, the way to avoid the
propagation and maintenance of such misconceptions is to avoid making
assumptions, and to communicate with a professional or anybody else you can
bring yourself to feel comfortable with. Asking and answering questions is
still one of the best ways to get a point across, and real time communication
helps in further clarification. Sex tends to engender strong feelings, so
better get clear knowledge before it becomes a significant problem.
Understanding the multiple factors associated with sex from the qualified
trained personal will go a long way in helping everyone lead a satisfying
sexual life
The next blog will be on the widely propagated myths about sex and
sexuality
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